For women, in general, marriage is the ultimate fulfillment of
a wish-fantasy, that of becoming a princess—donning a white wedding
gown and marching down a flower-festooned aisle. And during the
creation of a family, she sees herself as the queen of the domain.
But her beautiful dream can be shattered in just one click when
she discovers that her husband is not what she really dreamt of.
The following are the kinds of husbands that a woman is afraid
of: 1)
You-do-your-job-and-I’ll-do-mine Husband
It adopts the principle that besides being faithful to his wife,
the only contribution he is called upon to make toward the upkeep
of a home and the raising of children is the money he makes.
He selfishly imagines thatit is his wife’s part of the bargain
to do it alone in keeping the home tidy and neat, and respectable;
to feed, clothe and train the children; to correct and punish
them and to tell them what they may and may not do. In short,
they want the wife to do all the work involved in making a home
and raising children by herself. The wife should be regarded
as a mere “maid” in the house and not as a partner in creating
a happy family.
2) Money-Pinching
Husband
This is the husband who thinks that he should have autocratic
charge of all the finances of the family; and that he should
keep his wife on an allowance or a dole or a budget that barely
covers the stark necessities of housekeeping and her personal
requirements. Such husbands refuse to trust their wives with
money or even with a voice in discussions of how the family
funds should be used. In many cases, this same kind of husband
is very lavish in expenditures on himself and his pleasures.
3) The
I-need-recreation-and-you-don’t-need Husband
He feels that he must have his nightouts and his dayoffs for
bowling and others like gathering with the boys, but who rarely,
if ever, gives his wife an opportunity for relaxation away from
the constant duties at home. As to taking his wife out with
him once in a while, he considers that just out of the question.
In his mind, she ought to love just staying home and working.
This is inhuman. It is like saying: “I am a human being and
therefore I need recreation. My wife is not a human being and
therefore should need no recreation.”
4) Husband
who is Married First to his Business
Almost all of his time and energy are spent in his business
in trying to make money. Little time is spent with wife and
home. There is no criticism of the husband who takes an extra
job to help his family financially. These things can be done
without complete neglect of a wife and children. The man who
can forget that he has a wife and children in favor of his business
interests should never have married.
5) Mama’s
Boy
Marriage does not release either a husband or wife from the
duty of honoring and loving their mothers and fathers. However,
it does make duties to their spouses supersede duties to their
parents. The mama’s boy never quite leaves his mother. He permits
her to have more to say over his actions and plans than his
wife. A wife may have planned for weeks with the approval of
her husband, for some trip of outing with him. If, at the last
moment, mama says no, then the husband will not go. |
