There are different personalities in a family. The father may
tend to be authoritarian. The mother may be the supportive, loving
spirit in the home. A brother may be a happy, fun-loving boy who
always entertains just about anyone with his funny stories. An
older sister may be hard to please, no one really knows what makes
her happy.
Though family members share the same genes, each individual develops
his own traits and characteristics which may be pleasant or unpleasant.
It is important for family members to accept each other's strengths
and weaknesses. But it is equally important for each family member
to overcome his or her own weaknesses to be able to get along
with others.
For teenagers, it is very important to learn to be happy and contented
with what parents are able to provide, and to live within the
family's means. It may be difficult to be the only one in the
barkada (gang) without imported bags, clothes, or shoes. Or, to
be living in an old house when some classmate lives in a big,
well-kept houses. Keep in mind that while material wealth may
make life comfortable, it is not a family's only source of happiness.
There are other blessings like having true friends, a closely-knit
family, superior intelligence, or a special talent like playing
a musical instrument, drawing, or designing.
Parents want only the best for their children. However, the best
schools, the most fashionable clothes, and a big house are expensive
and not affordable to most Filipino families. It is very immature
to demand more from parents when they are already doing their
best to meet the financial needs of the family.
What makes
a happy family?
Love and
respect are integral components of a happy family. They can
do all things as a family but still maintain the individuality
of each member. Do you know that a really happy family does
not necessarily mean that they never ever fight or go against
each other? On the contrary, a happy family also finds its members
disagreeing with each other once in a while.
Just how is it with a well-adjusted family?
- Everyone knows his/her proper place. Parents know their responsibilities
and use their authority over their children appropriately. Children
clearly accept their duties and at the same time, are made aware
of their rights.
- They know that everyone commit mistakes. Each member is always
willing to accept and correct the mistakes committed.
- They immediately make up after a fight. Members of the family
argue, express each other's opinions but these fights must always
lead to a settlement.
- They share light moments and always find something to smile
or laugh about
- They offer each other a shoulder to cry on. |
